First of all I must admit that I am not an expert in matters concerning relationship and how to break through barriers from being a stranger, to a friend, to a true friend, and most of time hugging out together and eventually to lovers and others couples. However I am not a novice, at least I might have an understanding about it relating to my experience and those of others.
Impression is almost fundamental in all matters that reflects in regards to attraction, seeing what you like, feeling it from inside, in the process you get frightened about it, in your mind you’re thinking should I approach her? Is he going to approach me? The rest depends on one self courage and how bad he or she wants it.
21st century, people who were born between 1980s, 90s and early 2000, when the world is entering into an error of advancement of technology, plenty of entertainment, social media and stuff anybody can be a star, it does not matter what you do!!…is how you do it!! The gap between social class matters a lot, what do you have? How much do you have in your M-pesa account, the type of car you drive, how you dress matters a lot to most individuals.
What you have, determines what you get. Money buys love and with it you can constantly cheat, like who cares..if she leaves me I will get someone else, the circle goes round and round and before you realized your life is messed up because you did not have that discipline of remaining faithful.
Attraction is key, is what we feel. It happens subconsciously, it is beyond our control despite we can handle it. Initiating a good conversation it does not need one to be a good communicator I guess, every individual can find away of expressing themselves vividly as long us they have the courage and the ability to communicate there agenda. Listening also goes hand in hand with understanding, as this will lay a foundation and shade light to what somebody is going to respond.
Men have what we call ‘approach mechanism whereas lady have filtering mechanism’.. This is conscious, as one figures out what he is going to say, and how is going to say it. It is often obvious that people don’t remember what you said, they remember how you said it. What you say will either make one get attracted or may be eager to listen what you’re going to say or she is going to filter you out.
Good communicators always begin their conversation with a sense of humour I’m told, this will either make one smile or laugh hence getting interested to listen to what you are going to say…okay is she smiling, giggling, laughing and looking at you with at intense eye conduct, in the process touching her hair, licking her lips ooh she on fire, she is interested? Definitely yes!!. 7% of our communication is voice, 33% expression of our voice and tone and 55% is body language. We communicate more using our body language, and body language does not lie. We can tell if someone is really interested in what we say through their body language. You don’t need to study psychology for you to master the act of studying and understanding body language. Pay attention and concentrate, this will enable you to read people like book and also understanding them inside and out.
Body posture is also crucial, and that is why we are often encouraged to have an open body posture while communicating, this shows your confidence and courage. Confidence and courage is important, and also knowing what to say, why are you saying it, as this will enable you achieve your goals in matters that you intent to communicate….if you want to ask somebody out, sleep over and so on and so forth, this must be reflected in your conversation. Have an agenda to want you want to say, then make it an objection that you will meticulously follow to achieve the end goal. Sweet talking is encouraged, but don’t make it sound like a cliché, you can be filtered out…..so take care.
Attracting sometimes brings conflict into our conscious. This is because we normally try to get into the other person’s mind, and try to figure out what they are thinking about, it is impossible. We can tell this out through the power of body language despite not everyone is a master of studying and cognitively analyzing body language…in the context of arousal that will eventually lead the conversation to be intimate and more intense.
Touching is encourage, as this initiate moods through the realize of oxytocin (love chemical). It breaks the barriers of friendship to a potential more than a friend thing. It is not encourage touching an less she has shown that she interested in you. The touch should appropriate, don’t show you are desperate because you might be filtered out.